Want to accurately way predict which couples will likely have a lasting and fulfilling relationship and those that won’t? Don’t look at how they fight. Instead, look at how they celebrate. Studies have revealed that divorce is not often caused by an increase in negative feelings, but rather, is often lead by a decrease in positive feelings. How often you celebrate is more predictive than how often you fight.
If you want a better relationship with your partner, spend more time celebrating the good things in life. Doing so will increase your level of commitment, trust, satisfaction, and intimacy. Making a big deal over all of the good things (no matter how small) can profoundly improve the health of your relationship. Take pride in all of your partner’s accomplishments and successes (again, no matter how small).
